One of the things I think we tend to do, that we’re encouraged to do, really, is to only pamper or treat ourselves well for others. Think about all the sensory experiences that go into getting ready for a date.
Prepping for a date usually includes some sensual delights even if we don’t see them that way: The envigoration of a quick hot shower, or the relaxation of a long scented bath. The feeling, on your hands and on your head, of brushing and styling your hair. Even the deliberation over clothing, trying to find what will help you look and feel your best, can be an enjoyable experience of colour, texture, and sensation. I think it’s fair to say that most people find these things exciting because of the anticipation (even nervous anticipation) of the date. Let’s find them exciting and enjoyable in their own right.
Whether we’re partnered or single, we deserve to enjoy these experiences whenever we like. Going even further, I think we can learn to enjoy taking ourselves on a date. This might mean going out or staying in for an evening to ourselves. What you do might depend on whether you live with people–that is, how easy it is to get time alone.
Here’s the thing though: Whatever your preparation ritual for a date with someone else would be, do it for yourself.If that means throwing on jeans and a t-shirt, then by all means. If that means taking time with your appearance and outfit selection, go for it! never been on a date with someone else? Imagine what you’d want it to be like, and make it happen for yourself.
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing some ideas for what I like to call solo seduction.
Friendly readers: What are your pre-date rituals? Would you consider practicing those rituals simply for your own enjoyment?