I say this all the time: Lube is really important. I think my friends get tired of hearing me say that. If they voiced their boredom, they might remind me that I call myself a toy maven, and that I should get back to talking about toys, pleasure anatomy, and all that good stuff.
Lube really is the anchor that can pull all that other juicy (pun intended) stuff together, though. It can make sex play easier, more fun, more pleasurable, and safer. It’s important whether you’re playing by yourself, or with others, with or without toys, and with or without safer sex barriers–such as condoms or gloves. Most people–talking mainly about female-bodied folks here–don’t produce enough of their own wetness to make things fun, comfortable, and long-lasting. Speaking of those safer sex barriers, dryness and friction can cause them to split, so using lube with barriers is essential to using them safely.
If you are one of those people who does produce a lot of lubrication and you find your sex play works just fine without it, by all means skip the lube, but please don’t skip it because you think you’re not supposed to need it.
There are dozens–perhaps even hundreds–of different lubricants on the market, and it can be tough to figure out which one you need.
IN this ttele-class I talk about different categories of lube and the pros and cons of each.
IN this class I talked about things to look for in your lube choices, as well as things to watch out for. What have you found in your own quest for the perfect lube? Do you have any shopping or usage tips for others?